Recently i've been having a bit of a facebook cull when it comes to "friends". I've only ever had 177 "friends" [which is minor compared to some] many of whom were in the same school/university year as myself, yet we wouldn't talk to each other in the street. And if that was the case - they were off to be blacklisted, perhaps that's harsh but with the whole visa lark I don't need to feel like everyone needs to know my business.
Yet there is one person, well "friend" that i'm having a dilemma with. Let's call this friend C. Myself and C were really close at university when we where thrown together by the university people into living in the same freshers flat. While we're from different backgrounds socially [C being privately educated] we got on amazingly well, spending evenings and weekends talking the world away, we were clubbing buddies and cocktail girlies. This was all before boys. During the summer between first and second year C met her first proper boyfriend, couple this with moving into student housing nights in town decreased month by month, instead of going clubbing she'd rather shut herself in her room. Everything became about her boy. This continued into third year, and although we'd still have our natters, it wasn't the same.
On leaving university [C went south and I returned to do a Masters] we were still good, not great or as close, but still friends. We'd text, email, facebook; sending the normal cards at birthdays and Christmas. Until it all stopped on her part. While cards from C were always belated, they went from being two weeks late to non existent. I've tried texting, ringing, emailing but never got any reply. It didn't help when my phone died and I lost all my numbers. Yet I know C still used the same email because months later she sent a group email regarding someone spamming it days before. C's facebook on the other hand hasn't been touched by herself or her friends for a good year and a half.
I shouldn't let it bug me and I maybe it is time to move on and leave it as a lost friendship. But it's the memory of how close we were and the fun we had and in all honesty I do miss C. Maybe we were only a student friendship, thrown together under the circumstances and because those gone, the friendship too vanishes. With my time in the UK running out I'd love to be able to have that catch up chat but i'm not sure emailing C will get me anywhere, and emailing is the only form of communication I have left. Is cutting and deleting her on facebook the final end to that friendship?
What would you do bloggers? Would you risk sending another email and risk a wall of silence? Or would you let it go? Do you miss any lost friendships or have your tried to get them back?
I'd love to hear your stories because i'm really really not sure what to do.
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