One of the things I panic a lot about when it comes to the visa is all the protential quesitons they might ask about our relationship - the visa i'm on [the k-1] is basically a non immigrant visa which lets me into the USA for 90 days within which we have to marry. Then we attempt to adjust my status and that's another battle in itself. First we need to prove we have a proper relationship, and it's more then just showing you have the odd photograph together. I know I shouldn't worry - because what we have is proper and i'm not mail order bride, but its the not knowing what they want to hear. The questions [well sample ones you can find on the internet] are pretty straight forward but drive you in circles dusting over the "how did you meet", birthday dates, addresses, places of work then needing to know things like;
When is your birthday - your in trouble if you don't know this one me thinks ...
What is your fiancées designation at work ... i'll tell you after i've worked out what designation means ... job er social worker?
Did you have an engagement party ... are you for real? It's hard enough trying to get to see each other yet along get a party organised for an engagement. To be honest I know few couples who ever have had an engagement party.
What do your parents think of your engagement and did you make a formal announcement ... no comment - swiftly moving along ....
Why are you getting married in the U.S and not your home country ... cuz we just are, i can't really explain why apart from me hating my job, hating living at home and Joe having a career, a job, a car, a cat ...
Do you understand your finances language ... well he does use funny words like sidewalk, freeway, trunks, pants for trousers but I can improve it ...
Can you show proof of your arrangements to marry - to be honest this is rich. Countless countless times your reminded NOT to book any plans or flights or weddings because you might just not get your visa, so why would you go booking venues and send out dated invites when your wedding might not happen?! All we have is some stamped out invites and a wedding dress hung up in my boy's cupboard.
The easiest of the questions though; what do you love about your ficance ... he's my best friend, my rock, my guy that I giggle with, he's caring, affectionate, passionate, sweet, caring, and funny. I love how he makes me feel inside, and i love the tingles I get with him. Why wouldn't I want to be with a guy like that?!
The adjustment of status questions are even worse - requesting details of your housing arrangement and where you keep your rubbish in the kitchen apparently sometimes I wonder how many "normal" relationships could answer those questions. But I think i'll worry about these questions first.
So please Mr Visa don't think what we don't have isn't real, it made be based over
a huge distance and we may not physically have spent loads of time
together, but I know damn sure what we have is amazing special ... how
else have we managed to do this for over two years?!
Head down and back to swotting!
Head down and back to swotting!
Holy cow. I would be stressing for sure.
ReplyDelete"Where do you keep your rubbish in the kitchen?" Seriously? Um, in the bin? I feel like I'm missing something with this one!
ReplyDeleteIt must be horrible feeling like your relationship's being questioned like that :( It'll be worth it though, you'll get there :)
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Yeah Jess that is meant to be perhaps a real question - I think because when your getting to the adjustment of status we're meant to be married so I think they are trying to weed out those that got married but aren't living together. so they interview you separately to see if your questions match.
ReplyDeleteIt really is like they want to try and catch you out!
Blimey, just crazy you have to answer all those questions about your relationship :o( Scarlett x
ReplyDeleteSome people say they get loads of questions some people hardly had any. I think it's all luck of the draw!
ReplyDeleteoh man, they ask you when your birthday is?! What about, "What did you have for breakfast... three days ago?" I'd be in trouble then.
ReplyDeleteHaha too true in my case too Laura!
ReplyDeleteThat birthday question is actually ridiculous!! I have complete faith that it'll all work out :)
ReplyDeleteYeah, i've seen that question on all the sample ones kicking around on the net so i'm guessing it is a proper one!
ReplyDeleteI'll let you know how it goes Hazel - you'll be one of the first!
Oh god that sounds soooo stressful!! I think the Visa Man would have to be completely stupid if he thought your relationship was fake!! xx
ReplyDeleteOh wow, I had no idea the questions were so extensive! It must be hard, but you know you guys have nothing to hide, and it's a means to an (amazing!) end I guess. I can see why they have to go to such lengths I suppose, as so many people are attempting to gain access in that way. Hope it all goes okay, i'm very sure it will! :)
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Those are ridiculous questions, but I know you will be great! I hope everything goes well!
ReplyDeleteThat is crazy! Be sure to write your birtday on the palm of your hand in case you forget...you can look. LOL Seriously, I cannot believe the trouble it is taking to get over here to the states. and you think your guy has some funny words???? that's funny because I love reading your blog, just to ready YOUR words. Well, as always...i wish you luck and we all will be so glad when this long ordeal is behind you!
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How vile, I'd be so nervous I'd probably get my own birthday wrong. x
ReplyDeleteVix - in my head i get joe's birthday wrong a lot because of the way American's write dates down so annoying!
ReplyDeleteAnd yeah I can see why and I totally understand why America is really tight and slow and very thorough with it's immigration policies and way they do things, it's just sometimes a little silly. plus the London embassy as an average speed slower then all the other embassies.
I wouldnt suggest saying this, but my friends are getting married in the US and not in France where they live (he's French, she's from NY) because apparently is WAY cheaper.
ReplyDeleteI think you'll be OK getting the visa, and I'm going to cross my fingers for you. Let them know you're nervous that you won't get the visa BECAUSE you you love him and are eager to start your lives. Seriously, my fingers are crossed so hard for you.
Cheers Kalliie, I'm sure it'll be fine once i get through security and into the embassy and everything gets going. I think its the fear of the unknown and yeah, being out of my hands.
ReplyDeleteI#m sure to let you all know how it goes!
where keep rubbish in kitchen? My god they are nosey arent they! lol. Keep calm though am sure all will be fine xx
ReplyDeleteIs an engagement party necessary?! We didn't have one because we decided to save the money for the wedding instead.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure you'll have no problems at all, so try not to stress (obviously easier said than done).
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Good luck! It sounds like you'll do fine!
ReplyDeleteCheers guys, i'm sure it will go fine too. I think half my issue is that, I never really talk loads about my relationship because i'm use to people at work not getting or understanding it. So I have that fear they won't see it as real. I donno, just have to see how it goes!
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ReplyDelete- Jaimie
Sounds awful to have to prove your love in front of someone! I don't think I know where my BF keeps stuff in the kitchen, but I do know he likes to throw dental floss on the toilet (ew) and never, EVER turns the bathroom or kitchen lights off...ever. Does that count?
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