If there's one thing I've been trying work on daily in the last couple of weeks has been trying to cut myself some stack. After leaving university and moving back in with my overbearing parents (eh they probably meant well) topped off with moving to the US and standing out a little, my self confidence took a bit of a nose dive.
Self love for me is a weird thing to get my head around. Having grown up with parents, family members, kids in school taking odd bits out of you those voices, those words, they became internalized, no matter how hard I tried to ignore them. Those words, emotions, well they still hold me back. Now I stand on the verge of turning 28, not having the confidence in myself is holding me so it's time I started addressing some of these problems and try some self love for a change.
So, after coming across Cystal's guest post on Hello Neverland regarding self love, I knew the questions she posed were the ones I had to ask myself.
What about yourself makes you feel the most confident?
This is the question that I went back and forth for days trying to answer. Some days I would think it was the strength of moving countries - but then I would remember how anxious being an expat has also made me. Other days I would consider the fact I can go out, to estate sales, go to the post office or food shopping without make up on and not be bothered about it (or that it means I've lacked the confidence to make myself look good). Then perhaps it's because I manage to work for myself and make somewhat of a living from me.
What 3 things do you like about your personality?
Being quick witted (probably a better way of saying how I like being sarky) I can pull out a quick funny line without really thinking about it. Creativity with crafts, writing or photography, I can think outside the box and entertain myself for hours. Being curious by nature I want to know everything, I'm that person who always wants to know why, I'll research, I'll hunt out books, I want to know how things work or why they don't, why this happened, what that means.
What are two physical attitudes that you love and wouldn't change a thing about
My hair - it's thick, it still has some of it's natural curl, it takes well to hair dye, it's survived all the hair dye, and for all the stuff I don't do with it, it still looks healthy and well. Looking young for my age - it's a pain still being ID'd (especially as you tend to get ID'd if you look under 40 in the US) and while there's times I would love to look my age, or older, my skin is healthy, hopefully i'll still look young for my age in my 60's.
What one skill that you've mastered enough to be able to teach it to some?
Ah hard to pick one - I'm self taught at crocheting and having cross stitched since I was 5 I could probably share that too. But come to think about it, probably how to make money from ebay. While it's a hobby for many, for me it's how I make my living so I know all the ins and outs of getting the most from those titles, images, listings. Sadly it's more than just sticking an item up for 99c with free shipping and hoping for the best when you factor in all the fees etc.
How would you answer these questions? I'd love to hear."Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are".Malcolm S. Forbes